122 Rules by Deek Rhew

Friday, September 23, 2016

Time, Time, Time.

At work today we had a class ironically titled "Time Management." The reason why it's ironic is because we discussed the importance of keeping yourself organized and on-task, not drifting from the topic of conversation, starting and stopping meetings on time, yet, the class:

  A) Started late
  B) Ran late

I kid you not. Maybe I missed something, with me that's always possible.

The gentleman who taught it was entertaining, charming, and funny, but he admitted he was not an expert in time management. In fact, he told us he googled some articles to learn about it so he could teach the subject. So in his defense, he really didn't know much about it either.

So, why am I spending my time writing about a class that kinda missed the mark? Well, because there's an age old question begging to be answered:

What's more valuable, time or money?

For me that's a no-brainer. Easily time is far more valuable. Time is the one thing that you can never get back. In fact, for working joes such as myself, money is simply a representation of time you spend doing something for someone else. To waste money, to throw it away on stuff that simply isn't important, is to throw away your time. Rather it be an hour's worth of wages or a week's worth is irrelevant. These are minutes, hours, weeks, months of your life you will NEVER get back.

It's even worse if you waste someone else's money. Blowing through cash earned by a spouse, parent,
or friend is to say that you not only don't appreciate their time, but you don't care if you waste part of their lives.

You can win the lottery, but your prize is always cash, never six months of life. If it were, I'd enter all the time.

Fortunately, Erin is mastro with budgeting and is very careful with our finances. We don't have much stuff and, really, we don't want much. We are hardcore Dave Ramsey fans, using the cash system and paying off our small credit card every month. Anyone that says they "budget" on credit cards has no idea how to manage money. None.

I'm beyond lucky that Erin and I agree on our priorities. Like me, she values time above all. We spend all the time we have available together. I want to be with her whenever I can. She's my partner, my best friend, and the love of my life. We laugh together, talk, and hold each other, which to me is far more valuable than anything else on Earth. I'm a music lover, and her laughter my favorite song.

Deek and Erin on Adventure!

Deek and Erin Chillaxin' by the pool

We've chosen to live simply so we have more time. We rent an apartment that has everything we need including a high tech gym and 24/7 Starbucks. Really! It's so awesome. We walk in the evenings. Adventure and write on the weekends. Doing what we fancy. I couldn't ask for a better life or a better partner.

So there you go. The simple answer to the age old question.

Leave your thoughts, especially if you disagree. I'm always up for a great conversation.

Until next time, adventure on!

About the Author
Deek Rhew
Deek Rhew is a transplant from a rainy pocket in the Pacific Northwest, Deek now lives in a sultry corner of the US of A where the sun shines bright, the sweet tea flows, and the hush puppies are hot and delicious.

He and his brilliant, but stunning author bride, Erin Rhew, live a simple life with their writing assistant, a fat tabby named Trinity. They enjoy lingering in the mornings, and often late into the night, caught up Erin’s fantastic fantasy worlds of noble princes and knights and entwined in Deek’s dark underworld of the FBI and drug lords.

He is the author of two books:

122 Rules

A federal assassin grows a conscious just when he's about to pull the trigger.

He has decision to make: Finish his assignment, or follow his gut and save his quarry.

Read #122Rules to join the fray.

Birth of an American Gigolo

If you've even been betrayed.
If you've ever been cheated.
If you've ever wanted to serve up a can of whoopass on someone that desperately deserved it
but never got the chance...
​It's time for you to get the revenge you so truly deserve.

A Husband.
A Mistress.
A #WifesRevenge

Get your revenge.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

Rollin' Rollin' Rollin'

Hey, peeps! It's been a little while since I've posted, but things have been a little chaotic as of late. Erin and I packed up our home in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and hauled bootae across the country to the South! Wut the wut? Yep! A couple of years ago, Erin moved west to be with me, and the time has come for our adventures to take us back to the South!

Over the last few months as we packed and pared down, things have been a completely crazy. Erin and I sold almost everything on Craigslist so we could fit all of our worldly possessions into a tiny 6x12 trailer.

Yes, 6x12. 

That's a ton smaller than your average bedroom. But stuff is just stuff, so we each chose a few items that really meant something, and the rest went. We can get "new" chairs, nightstands, and bookshelves from Craigslist. After all:

Stuff is replaceable.

Just before we rolled out, Trinna, the leader of #Rhewination, jumped into a box. I guess she decided that she didn't want to be left behind.

Trinna will NOT be left behind!

A few days before we left, a friend offered us a set of Timbers' tickets. Even though there was a ton to do, we jumped at the chance of finally getting to see my home state's champion soccer team. Well, if you don't read the fine print, you might go on the wrong night...like we did. So instead, Erin and I ended up at a Thorn's game. For those of you not in the know--like us--the Portland Thorns FC are the women's pro soccer team (FC = football club). Let me tell you, the ladies do NOT disappoint! 

I'm not a huge sports fan, but I've been to a baseball game and got to see the Trail Blazers, but the crowd's energy at this game dwarfed those by about a thousand. Chants and drums and flags...oh my!

If you are ever in the Portland area, I HIGHLY recommend catching one of their games. Also, go to a Timbers game for me. :-)

When you are at a sporting event you HAVE to eat a nacho!
Lucky fella and his beautiful bride!

Finally the day came and we rolled out! Unlike the last time we crossed the country by car, where we made several pit stops along the way, this one had to be quick. So, Erin and I took some pics as we sailed through our beautiful country.

Brief pictoral of our trek across the nation
One last peek at Multnomah Falls!
Incredible Sunset from Eastern Oregon

Beautiful Sunset with my Beautiful Bride!
#LuckyFella #Happiness

Gateway Arch in St. Louis

Lincoln Head Statue at a Wyoming Rest Stop

Amazing Wyoming Sunset

Wyoming Sunset

Beautiful High Plains in Wyoming
NOTE: The plains in Wyoming are called "high" for a reason. They are 8000 feet up! The interstate has gates all along its length to close the road if there's too much snow. Yes, this happens. Wyoming is gorgeous but cold! A lot of the restaurants, gas stations, and other businesses are only open March through October.

Geologist's Playland in Wyoming

Tons of Wind Farms Across the Nation

Dinner of champions in a random Walmart parking lot of a random city in the middle of the country.
Wut? How can Clark can change into his "secret" disguise in a booth made of glass?
Takin' Care of Business!

We pulled in late Wednesday night, parked out trailer, and have been staying in hotel as we get settled. Now that we have all our adulting responsibilities done and our apartment secured, we've found ourselves with a little spare time on our hands. Time for some adventures!

Erin has lived in the South her whole life, but has never made it to:

South of the Border

South of the Border is this small amusement-type town just a stone's throw from the southern edge of North Carolina. We counted 42 billboards along the highway leading up to the town, so we knew it would be awesome. If the 1990's movie, Total Recall, and a cheap Mexican restaurant had a baby, this is what would come out. It was so campy that that we fell in love with the place right away.

Heading to the South of the Border!

Tons of fiberglass statues for tons of selfie opportunities!

Ginormous fiberglass abounded!
Best #BirthSelfie eva!
Because everyone should kiss a camel sporting a sombrero at least once in their lives! 
Copping a feel...
Come on, Rex! Put up yer dukes!
There are a lot of sharks in the warm Atlantic waters. May as well embrace them!
A little bling from South of the Border!
Several billboards had this saying. Let's face it, Erin's striking,
beautiful blues make this picture breathtaking.
Channeling my inner Ponch and Jon!
Yes! Got my sombrero on!
Erin too!

It's been a wild, stressful, crazy time. Erin and I made the PNW our home, and now we are making the South our home. But the thing is, no matter where we are or what we are doing, I'm home as long as I'm with her. On the east coast, the west, or somewhere in between, it doesn't matter. Her laugh is music to my ears. Her smile lights up my night. Her hand is extension of my own body. Erin is my best friend, my partner, and--incredibly lucky for me--my bride.

I'm beyond blessed to be on this wild, crazy adventure with her and am looking forward to laying down new roots.

With my best friend and bride, adventuring at South of the Border!
Until next time, peeps: Adventure on!

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Happy Happy Birthday!

Today is an incredibly special day! 

Today is Erin's birthday!

Erin is the love of my life. She's the lub to my heart's dub. She's the dance partner of my soul. She's my Ideal Reader. She's my best friend. She's my person. I can't even begin to tell you all the really special things about my bride.

Take a stroll with me and I'll give you a glimpse into what an incredibly lucky fella I am.

Erin makes every minute special. On our dates...

Or just climbing into the car...

Erin's always trying to express herself in different looks. But whether she's got purple hair..
Erin Rhew - Purple and Mysterious

Different styles...
Erin Rhew - Dark and Brooding

Grey hair...

Or blonde...
The Blonde putt-putt smack down!

She's still the same person, just showing a different facet of her amazing personality. For instance, she's always making me laugh with her zany hilarious antics.
Erin Rhew - Save a Horse...

A lot of the time I don't even know what she's going to do, but I can guarantee that it will be fun, kind, sweet, amazing, astounding, or all of the above.

A few months ago we posed together as Sam Bradford (the main character from 122 Rules) and his girlfriend. I have to say that Erin pulled off the bad chick thing!
Erin Rhew the criminal
I'd rob a bank with this woman anytime! Hubba! Hubba!

Erin can pull of the Portland Rocker Chick vibe...
Erin Rhew the rock star

Or the horticulturist surprised by her ginormous blooms...
Erin Rhew the flower farmer

She pulls off Ms. Agent Smith without the tiniest misstep...
Erin Rhew as Ms. Agent Smith

As a lifelong fan of The Matrix, she's had a lot of time to study the characters. Nailed it!

Of course everyone knows that Erin is a brilliant author.
Erin Rhew - Beautiful and Charming
If you haven't gotten to read one of her books, start with The Prophecy. I guarantee you will NOT be disappointed!

In fact, just recently I was lucky enough to get to do a book signing with her!
People come to see the beautiful woman. Is there a man in this pic too?

Of course, you don't want to tick her off. She's the daughter of a Marine after all, and knows how to handle dangerous situations.

Do NOT mess with this chicka!

From danger to fun in 2 seconds flat!

I'm beyond lucky that she makes "us" a priority...

And even luckier that she agreed to be my bride!

OMH Did you ever see a more beautiful bride?!!!

Erin makes the mundane fun and the unbearable bearable.

At the end of the day, no matter what's happened, the troubles we've faced or the foes we've battled, it is just the two of us.

Erin and me, #Always

Erin, you are my best friend and the best person I've ever known. Thank you more than words could ever express for sharing your heart and your life with me. I want you to have the happiest of birthdays ever and to know that you are loved beyond beyond beyond.

#Always your j